(as seen by a perpetually single teen)
I have been juggling some ideas about relationships in my head for a while now, and I’ve come to a conclusion. There are three types of relationships. I’m not trying take a political stance or anything (but i support gay all the way, just throwing that out there), so I’ll refer to people involved as A or B.
Type 1: The Classic Relationship
This is how relationships were for hundreds of years. 2 people (i mean to be historic, it’s a man and woman, but remember, no politics) are married. Person A has the power in the relationship (generally the man, as humans are wired for it to be as so. men are naturally more aggressive and therefore have the power) and uses it to protect person B (usually the woman). Now, relationships have certainly come a long way, to the point where person B’s power is equaling that of Person A.
But in type 1 relationships, the balance stays as such. While they are both equals, Person A is generally the worker or breadwinner for the family and they support person B. This is basically the typical marriage and by far the most common in today’s world. So A > B, but what if B were just a little more pushy?
Type 2: The Power Couple
These people, in my opinion, have got it made. Two individuals with high senses of self and duty, come together and do great things. They are equals so no one has final word, which can lead to many arguments, but they are both just as excited about everything as the other is.
Both work about the same amount and are generally go-getting, ambitious people who know how to get things done. When they are equal, there will always be a sub-conscious power struggle which, un-noticed, could easily tear them apart, but they are driven individuals. These seem to be a big risk, but if you find exactly the right person for you, you will get shit done.
Type 3: The Paradox
As mentioned in type 1, due to hormones and the natural natures of the genders, men naturally take control of situations and relationships. And there will always be powerful women who are quite aware that they don’t need anyone. Yet it sometimes happens that you will get a fiery woman who is with a rather recessive guy. I’m not saying that the woman is super controlling, or that the guy is a wuss, some people just prove nature wrong.
You get a driven woman and a sweet guy and its a relationship that works just as well as any.
So that’s how I’ve deduced it.
Now you know.
Straight from the fingertips of a girl who can’t back up any of what she has just said. But you know what? I’ve made a good point.
The more you know!
~phan
What about those relationships where neither parties are very aggressive? so they probably get set up by someone else because even if they like each other they are both too shy and they are together and they really have no tension between them but at the same time it’s really plain
plain meaning both safe and boring
unless you like that sort of stuff
Hi there. These are very commonly held beliefs. However, recent scientific research has been consistently disproving all of these. No, men as not hard wired to be more aggressive. That really not true. The fact that men are often in more control is socially caused–systems of oppression and privilege are the cause. Not genes
Although biology and genes and neuroscience are “hot” topics right now, most legit scientists concede thy genes have VERY LITTLE impact on our behavior. It’s environment and culture and society and norms and peers and family that truly contribute to why we act the way we do.
Happy blogging!
(who am I? You may be asking
I’m getting my phd in the social sciences with a focus on oppression…so I’ve been obsessively studying this exact topic for like 7 years)
wow thank you, I’m humbled by your expertise